Usually I try not to assume anything. I hate it when people assume my sexuality. Being perceived as straight or as gay can sometimes feel more comfortable and safe depending on the situation, but these labels also never quite feel authentic. I try to give folks the benefit of humanity–I try never to assume what they are and actively make an effort to never guess at what their personal sexual proclivities might be. If it’s important, they’ll tell me.
Otherwise we’re all just human animals running around on this amazing dynamic planet, falling in love, falling in lust, and trying to find a life that is meaningful and fulfilling. That’s a daunting task without being worried whether or not I’m queer enough.